Different ways to avoid fighting

 

Ok ok, I know most of us get into fights frequently, more than average if you are a teenager. And for me, it is more than frequent. I fight with my friends, siblings, cousins, parents, teachers, the pouch which does not close properly, onions which I cut, and even with myself! admit it, you also fight with a lot of people. But all of us equally know that fighting isn't good. It can result in broken pieces of friendship which took years to build, a never-healing scar on the heart, and unreasonable and revengeful hate for the person.

When I fight, I cause much verbal harm to the opposite person, not using swear words but using their biggest weakness against themselves. Once when I was having a not-so-going-debate with my uncle an idiot and when I first got into cooking, I cut an onion, which was making me cry into so small pieces that it could no longer be used for curry. 

But, I don't frequently get into fights, most of the time I am a peacemaker. 

In order to nor to get in fights, most of the people suggest meditation, counting till ten, and many more things, but none work for me when i try to tell my friend he is trusting a wrong person and he tries to prove me wrong with stupid reasons. Now lets get on the point.how to avoid being in a fight when it is clearly not you who is wrong.

Get away from there

Many times when mom and I are an inch away from fighting, the first thing I do is go away. Not away from home of course. Just go to any other room. It is really unlikely that the person will follow you to the room.  

Remove eye contact

You are going to a stroll with your friend and things are not going good, try not to look in the eye, it shows that you are no longer in the conversation. Not always, but it can help a bit in reducing the red eye fight citation.

Bring a third person (who wouldn't take any sides)

When two of my friends are not going in the right term, many times, I come and start a topic in which the two of them are together and I have  different opinions. In my case, both of them get along and start fussing on me. It doesn't get so bad then.

Don't increase your voice

Don't shout. Be calm, Avoid saying the phrase ' you are wrong'. Keep your tongue under control.  

Give them time

Give them time, they might understand how you were right. They might come themselves to say how sorry they were. Once when i and my friend were on the brink of a fight, i just stop speaking, if i would have spoken, then i would have called the start of a war which would have destroyed our long friendship, but i the silence, i was right and we are on the best terms now.

A fight is never good. A fight can bring a lot of negativity inside him. You may lose control over yourself and speak things that would always haunt you and cause marks that never leave .

Thank You